• Day 16: In Loving Memory - Part 1

    Día de los Muertos has become deeply meaningful to me, a tradition that Alexis brought into my life and one that I now hold close to my heart. The ofrenda is more than just a display; it’s a testament to the love and memories that continue to live on. Each photo, each memento is a proud reminder of the joy and light our loved ones brought into our lives. It’s a way for all who enter our home to feel that love, to see that while they may be gone, they remain an essential part of who we are.

  • Day 15: Recognizing my Limits

    Pouring my heart into 31DaysofGrief has been a journey unlike any other.

  • Day 14: The Club

    I got my membership card on October 17, 2017.

  • Day 13: More Than One Moment

    It was a couple days before 10/17/2017. I was exhausted.

  • Day 12: 10/17/2017

    I’m an over-thinker, a decisive planner—it’s both a strength and a weakness.

  • Day 11: Carrying the Burden

    I’ll never forget the moment I realized my mother wasn’t going to live forever.

  • Day 10: My Partner in Grief

    Today marks four years of marriage for us. In honor of our day, I asked Alexis to share her perspective on supporting me through my grief. I can’t thank her enough for being my light in the dark. I love you.

  • Day 9: For Florida

    Florida has always been a place of resilience. Even in the face of tragedy, people look out for each other. Neighbors help neighbors, and the community comes together, as it always has.

  • Day 8: Grieving the Living

    Grief doesn’t just take the ones we’ve lost; it splits the living. Friendships fade as the grief becomes too much to carry, and the bonds you thought would last slip away.

  • Day 7: A Mother's Sun

    I was inspired by yesterday’s post to talk about the solar eclipse of 2024. My last shared memory with my mom was during the eclipse of 2017. We made a promise to see the next one together.

  • Day 6: Shall We Look at the Moon, My Little Loon?

    “Why do you cry?”

  • Day 5: Unanswered

    Before she died, my sister gave me a letter.

  • Day 4: Bee Real

    Not long after my mom passed, I had my best friends over one night in late October. We built a fort in the living room—chairs, cushions, and a giant blanket draped over us, with mattresses underneath. It was one of those forts that make you feel like a kid again.

  • Day 3: Lost and Found

    I remember when my mom told me I was adopted.

  • Day 2: The Edge of Gargantua

    I think about time a lot. Especially since moving to Los Angeles, where distances aren’t measured in miles, but in minutes. Time governs everything.

  • Day 1: Welcome to the After-Party

    October is a celebration of the dead. And with death everywhere this month, it’s a little easier to talk about.